Monday, January 11, 2010
Characteristics of a Healthy, Functional Family
Each member of the family is respected for his or her uniqueness and has equal value as a person.
Each member of the family is encouraged to develop as a unique individual. Family members can be different from one another and are not pressured to conform.
Parents do what they say and are consistent. They are good role models.
Communication is direct, and honest among members is encouraged.
Family members are taught to develop and express their feelings, perceptions, needs, etc.
When problems develop, they are discussed and solutions are developed. Major problems such as alcoholism, compulsions, or abuse do not go unacknowledged or untreated.
Family members can get their needs met in the family.
Family roles are flexible.
Family rules are flexible, but accountability is required.
Violation of the rights or values of others causes guilt. Family members own their personal behavior and its consequences.
Learning is encouraged; mistakes are forgiven and viewed as part of the learning process.
The family is not completely closed in its internal interactions, nor is it completely open to the outside world.
The family supports each individual member.
Parents are not infallible and all-powerful; they negotiate and are reasonable in their interactions.
Bradshaw On: The Family: A New Way of Creating Solid Self Esteem by John Bradshaw.