What does Asperger's Syndrome look like?
According to WebMD: People with Asperger's syndrome may not make eye contact when speaking with someone. They may have trouble using facial expressions and gestures, and understanding body language.
National Institutes of Health: problems with non-verbal communication, including the restricted use of gestures, limited or inappropriate facial expressions, or a peculiar, stiff gaze.
There is a perception that children with Autism have a flat affect and cannot express themselves verbally or socially. People see what they want to see. They look at the name. With a name they don't look beyond the textbook definition of what's in front of them. Most people need labels to define persons, places or things.
Look at the magic that dances behind my son's eyes. That is childlike wonder and merriment. He is happy, joyful, goofy and creative.
He doesn't fit under any one column or category. He strives to carve a place for himself and to BE him. That's his goal. My goal is to help him do that.
My child has labels. He's a geek, a nerd, a Pokemon fan, a Lego builder, a videogame master. He has Asperger's Syndrome and ADHD. However, the label I use most and like best is he is my son.
Regardless of what he has, and any struggles that we face, once you get beyond all of the noise; there is that small quiet space that you created together when you were carrying your young. That space you retreat to when it is bed time and it's that special moment for snuggles and silly jokes and hearing that little creature you made breathe. That's what matters most.
That is love.